A most excellent chapter in Writer Mama is titled, Practicing Good Boundaries. As all burp cloth totin’, diaper changin’, and/or homework helpin’ moms know, boundaries are a must if we want to pump out more than ten words a day.
In her book, Christina gives four crucial nuggets of wisdom:
Set Limits on Your Time and AvailabilityShe encourages moms to practice before dreaded deadlines are in the picture. It’s worth it to get in the groove of scheduling in writing time now.
Ask for Help When You Need ItSpousal support. A last minute call to friend to babysit. Honest communication with an editor. Tapping in to any one of these sources can help the writer mama accomplish her goals.
Share a Bit about What You DoHelp others understand what your job as a writer and a mama entails. Many people have no idea how hard writer mamas work in order to balance their load.
Filters and Routines Help (love this suggestion)
“A filter is a method of channeling your workflow to the appropriate place when it comes in, so you can ignore it until you need it and then find it easily when you are ready for it.”
I can’t say enough good things about this tip. It’s a surefire way to prioritize and to work toward efficiency.
For an example of routine, Christina suggests checking email only at certain times.
What has helped if you, if you juggle being both a writer and a mama?
So, have at it, give a congratulatory pat on the back to the writer mamas out there. Set those boundaries, and as always, write on!
*Now, if I’d been a smidge less busy, I would have put on my thinking cap and would have contacted Christina directly to give her the heads up I was writing this post. She rocks. Truly rocks. And I recently read on a blog comment that she played rugby making her that much cooler in my book.
**mom & baby photo from Flickr