Thursday, May 14, 2015

Gotta Know when to Hold 'em, and when to fold 'em.

A self-portrait.... (not really)

Confession: I like to listen to country music.

Ya ever heard the old song by Kenny Rogers, The Gambler Song?

Ya gotta know when to hold 'em.
Know when to fold em.
Know when to walk away,
know when to run.

You never count your money
When you're sittin' at the table.
There'll be time enough for count'
When the dealin's done.

So yeah, it's about gambling. Not really a normal "Christian" topic on a blog for Christian writers, I know. Bare with me.

I've been sitting here thinking about my crazy writing life right now and that song popped into my head. Last month I'd done this super detailed writing calendar for myself, SO excited that I'd be organized and have daily wordcount goals and all that. It was FANCY, y'all. My turn had come and I was gonna roll the dice on my time and go all in.

Then my daughter got sick. Pneumonia. 5 day hospital say.


Since then we've had a billion doctors appointments for various reason, I've had my wisdom teeth out, and end-of-the-year school stuff is raging on for all of my kids, as well as a fundraiser for a heart walk we're doing to honor our daughter, Annabelle.

I threw my cards down, dropped my head onto the table, and yelled FOLD a few weeks ago.

I'm not out for the game. Just for this hand--this month. There wasn't any way I'd win with the cards I'd been dealt. To try would have been just plain stupid.

What is NOT in my hand today....
Sometimes you really do just need to know when it's time to fold 'em and set it aside for a bit.

Other times ya need to hold em. Don't up the ante but stay in the hand because you might just come out on top.

Personally, I find myself bluffing a little too much, but that's a whole other conversation.

I was supposed to post today on "money" as it relates to writing. That's why I included the second part of that song above. Because I'm choosin' not to count my money at the table at the moment, because there will be time enough for that later, say, maybe June-ish.

So until then, I'm gonna walk away to bed (no, take that back, I might run!) because this writer-momma is TIRED and needs a few zzz's to make it through tomorrow, another busy day.

Never thought you could learn a few things from a gambler about your writing life, did ya?

Yeah, me neither.

Let's Chat! What's in your hand right now? Are you gonna toss in a few coins and go for it? Or are you like me and need to fold for a bit because there isn't a snowballs chance in Cuba you'll actually come out on top trying to write in this season?

Or are you sitting there thinking, "Wow... that was a stretch, Krista. You must REALLLLYYYYY be tired." It's okay if you're thinking that. It has a distinct possibility of being true!!!

Krista is a follower of Jesus, a wife, a mother, and author of Sandwich, With a Side of Romance, A Side of Faith, and A Side of Hope. She blogs about finding JOY in the journey of LIFE at She is represented by Sarah Freese of Wordserve Literary.


kaybee said...

Krista, country music is nothing to be ashamed of. I watch "Nashville" and am amazed at some of the things that are coming out of there, especially from the younger songwriters. And Kenny's a classic. And, whether we like it or not, there are Seasons. Your daughter comes first. Your other kids come first. Your family comes first. God comes first. If you honor those commitments, YOU WILL WRITE AGAIN. I always told God I would give it up or put it on hold if pursuing the dream began to have a negative effect on my family and spiritual life. And I continue to ask him on a regular basis, even though my kids are grown and out of the house and my husband is so supportive. It's harder for you because you are published and I assume you're dealing with deadlines you did not set. Don't give up. Assess what season you're in and act accordingly. And get some rest.
Kathy Bailey
Been through it in NH and still going through it

Robin E. Mason said...

I'm fighting for all I'm worth to break out of things I've lived with basically all my life, in basically all areas of my life: physical issues [pain] financial [as in lack] and relationship [long story] and some days I haven't even picked UP my cards!! some days I just stares at them - but SOME days, i know i have a winning hand and I play it for all I'm worth!!!

Krista Phillips said...

Kaybee, absolutely! There are definite seasons and a spot where writing NEEDS to take priority, but there are times when you're gonna lose either way so gotta put them cards down and walk away for a bit.

I walked a way a few years ago... and that was what I needed to do.

Not walking or running away today, just sitting out a short hand til I can be in a better position to WIN!

Krista Phillips said...

Robin, good for you! Keep fighting, friend!!!!